10-05-2019, 10:54 PM
CBT is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It is based mostly upon thinking patterns and thought processes. I had to use this when dealing with clients who struggled with understanding how they were holding themselves back.
Psychoanalysis, while dated, can yield good results if one is fully invested in it, but then you have to pay a therapist and no matter what they tell you, your conversations with them (per law) are never truly confidential.
As for feeling torn. It has nothing to do with homophobia. I, personally have felt torn about this fetish and even about homosexuality (which I personally reject as a title for individuals). There is nothing wrong with these types of feelings, they just exist. The important thing to recognize is that even though we "feel" a certain way, (such as feeling torn, ashamed, embarrassed, or even feeling "gay" itself), we do not have to act upon it. And most importantly, we don't have to let those feelings define us.
Is it possible to indulge in something that you may not personally like? The answer is yes. We do it all the time. Think about smokers who struggle to quit. Think about those "married straight guys" who cheat on their wives with other men. Think about how many times in your life you've done something, then didn't understand why you did it. We are all that way.
Plato taught us about dualism. That there is the ideal and there is reality. They don't always match. We cannot expect them to. We aren't perfect.
If you are looking for a type of therapy, my best advice for you would be DBT (or Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). You can start by practicing what is known as mindfulness and radical acceptance. Start by acknowledging to yourself what you feel, recognize it and even focus on what it feels like (i.e. where you feel it, what id feels like, etc.). Just observe the feeling and do nothing about it. Just "feel" it. The radical acceptance is just basically accepting the feeling.
If it is personal balance you are looking for, then I would suggest limiting yourself. Set a timer on and limit how much time you spend online. I actually like the suggestion of a gym membership. But go there for yourself, not necessarily looking for someone else. Building up old hobbies is a great way of balancing your life, or you could even take upon yourself to learn something new. I recently decided to learn to speak Ukrainian and began studying that. It helped fill a void in my life and was actually kinda fun and exciting.
If you need any other suggestions, let me know what specifically you're looking for. I'd be glad to help.
Psychoanalysis, while dated, can yield good results if one is fully invested in it, but then you have to pay a therapist and no matter what they tell you, your conversations with them (per law) are never truly confidential.
As for feeling torn. It has nothing to do with homophobia. I, personally have felt torn about this fetish and even about homosexuality (which I personally reject as a title for individuals). There is nothing wrong with these types of feelings, they just exist. The important thing to recognize is that even though we "feel" a certain way, (such as feeling torn, ashamed, embarrassed, or even feeling "gay" itself), we do not have to act upon it. And most importantly, we don't have to let those feelings define us.
Is it possible to indulge in something that you may not personally like? The answer is yes. We do it all the time. Think about smokers who struggle to quit. Think about those "married straight guys" who cheat on their wives with other men. Think about how many times in your life you've done something, then didn't understand why you did it. We are all that way.
Plato taught us about dualism. That there is the ideal and there is reality. They don't always match. We cannot expect them to. We aren't perfect.
If you are looking for a type of therapy, my best advice for you would be DBT (or Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). You can start by practicing what is known as mindfulness and radical acceptance. Start by acknowledging to yourself what you feel, recognize it and even focus on what it feels like (i.e. where you feel it, what id feels like, etc.). Just observe the feeling and do nothing about it. Just "feel" it. The radical acceptance is just basically accepting the feeling.
If it is personal balance you are looking for, then I would suggest limiting yourself. Set a timer on and limit how much time you spend online. I actually like the suggestion of a gym membership. But go there for yourself, not necessarily looking for someone else. Building up old hobbies is a great way of balancing your life, or you could even take upon yourself to learn something new. I recently decided to learn to speak Ukrainian and began studying that. It helped fill a void in my life and was actually kinda fun and exciting.
If you need any other suggestions, let me know what specifically you're looking for. I'd be glad to help.
And As Always,
Happy Battlings and a Glorious Death to You All!!!!
B&D
Happy Battlings and a Glorious Death to You All!!!!
B&D